Okay so here is a story one I hope a few read and get insight into the workings of some women's minds... there is a point to this story at the end... so a few months ago I hung out with an AMAZING guy!! He was everything I wanted in a man. He was sweet, talked about everything not just about what he wanted in the bedroom (which is how most guys start talking to me after 5 mins) He asked how my daughter was doing, how work was. He came and stayed the weekend and he was perfect absolute gentlemen. Yes, he paid for meals, that's something I've NEVER had a guy do even when I was married I paid for everything!!! anyways he took me to the movies, held my hand spent time at my house and even wanted to meet my family, my daughter hasn't met any guy that I talked to in the past so this was big deal to me. Well 2 days of pure bliss and on the last day I told him now is your chance to run. My daughter likes you (he told her he was going to marry me SMH-BTW he has 2 children and knows not to say this to a child), my mom likes you, now you will never speak to me... his reply "Never you got your claws in me now." So he went home messaged me for two days straight, said he would be back in town in a week or 2 and that we would go do something making plans for my birthday and then nothing.......... For a week and a half.... Nothing.. I messaged him every other day just saying hi! hope your having a great day.... no response... waited for another day finally messaged again.... Hi hope your have a great day is everything okay?..... still nothing... Let me remind you that I told him if he didn't want to talk to me again that's fine to just let me know..... still no response so finally on the day after a week of no response I message him twice and called him twice not saying anything about me just wanting him to call me or text me saying he was okay.... Finally a response.... "yeah I'm okay, your acting a little crazy though.." CRAZY!!!! after a week of no response you see that as crazy!!! well needless to say he hasn't message me since, blocked me on facebook and now facebook wont let me delete him off my facebook.... and I am guessing changed his number but I haven't talked to him since that last message....
I have learned that even though a guy is 27-30 years of age, has a job, a car, seems to have his life together, he is still a boy. Not fully grown. Into himself more than anyone else. All he cares about is whats going on in the moment. Being the most popular guy who has the best toys to show off to his friends. Who only cares about how he feels and doesn't care if he hurts his family or his friends feelings. Doesn't keep promises will say he forgot or slipped his mind. He will always lead you on and make you feel important and say the right things to make you happy but once your out of site he is on the the next person, remember that saying " out of sight out of mind" well that's one he lives by.
While a MAN is a guy who makes plans for the future and when he mentions his job its not a job to him its a Career, he sees something and talks about the future he could have with it. He wont make empty hearted promises and will keep the commitments he made. He will do all he can to make you happy (that's within in his grasp) But he's also a realist and knows that somethings will not happen and doesn't try to make you feel like its a possibility because its not... He will make you feel like a great person but when he meets the ONE he will make her feel like the Queen and will try to do nothing to make her feel unworthy of his love or make her question if he really likes/loves her.
Boys come in many shapes and sizes. They can be the most: good looking, funny, sweetest, guy in the world but he wont give two cents for you really. While a man can come in many shapes and sizes as well and sadly most women meet these boys first who ruin the mans chance of finding a good woman... These boys destroy women with their ignorance, with their need to be loved but not wanting to give love out, who say all the right things and make a woman feel loved and special and then leave without a word and make that said woman question herself. example: What did I do? did I say something? did I wear something that upset him? am I not pretty? am I too fat? am I too thin? So when the nice man comes along we don't think we are worthy for them, we worry that they will do the same thing as that boy that came along and it makes us become defensive, not trusting him in what he says or does for us. We don't appreciate the comments as much or the door opening because in the back of our minds we wonder how long he will be around for.
So ladies here's what I want you to do..... forget about the past. Forget about the past relationships, the losers, the ex-husbands, ex-boyfriends, one night stands that you thought could turn into more... and focus on the future... Take a long look at yourself say I am beautiful, I am strong, I am amazing... and give it time and your Wonderful amazing man will come along and when he does he will be impressed by your confidence and your independence that he will wonder how anyone passed you up.
That is all for today. Thank you for reading and I hope this helped someone and im glad that I finally got it off my chest.
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